Yesterday I mowed the grass. I really like this task as it gives me nearly two solid hours to myself to really just think about stuff (oh yeah, and to sweat and sunburn). Sometimes having that much time alone is a good thing, and sometimes, well, it’s not so good. However, yesterday it was one of those days that I was feeling a bit introspective. So keep in mind, this post is directed at me as much as it’s directed at anyone else……
I’m a Facebook user. My beloved would probably classify me as a Facebook “junkie”. He’s probably right, but the first step to recovery is always denial, right?! Besides, I can stop anytime I want to! He doesn’t understand the appeal that Facebook has for most people. He has an account, but he rarely uses it. He thinks of it as a “networking and marketing tool” for his various blogs, books, and the farm. I however see it as one of my few social outlets. It’s so sad, to be only virtually sociable….but that’s a post for another day.
What is your Facebook profile saying about you?
Every time I get a friend request (yes, I actually get them, not just send them out!), I check out the person’s profile before I accept them (and sometimes their photos if I’m not sure who they are – its been a LONG time since high school and college mind you). I read the entire profile page, including the “groups” section. Do you know, I can read through the bio and feel really good about a person, and then get to their “groups” or their “fan pages” and my stomach almost immediately sours. Let me give you an example (by the way, this is not a ‘real’ example, although it might feel like some of y’all’s pages)………
** I’m a Christian mom (or dad) who homeschools my 17 children – ages 6 months to 25 years. We live on a farm in the middle of God’s country, and we milk our herd of 30 Jersey’s daily. I make cheese with the milk. My children and I work our one acre garden and sell produce at the local farmer’s market. We gather eggs from our hen’s each day and we donate about 15 dozen each week to the local food pantry as we want to help give back to our impoverished community. My husband and I attend our small community church each week where I teach the 4 and 5 year old Sunday School and my husband is an elder in the church. My life is blessed beyond measure. I have great friends, a loving family, and I serve an amazing God who has seen fit to not only take care of my every need, but to give me some of the things I long for as well. Praise the Lord! **
Now after reading through that, if this were a person who has sent me a ‘friend request’ I’d feel pretty good about accepting them. That is, until I get to their favorite pages or groups….see if you don’t agree…..
GROUPS: (Yes, I know some of these groups are real Facebook groups)
* If I had it to do all over again, I’d be a lesbian! *
* My daily Bible verse *
* Hope & Change for America *
* Yes, I’ll smile and wave, but deep down I think you’re a dirty rotten two-faced whore. *
* Mafia Wars *
* FarmVille *
* What’s wrong with having a National Healthcare system? *
* Biggest Loser *
* Glory To God Christian Church, Mytown, USA *
* Desperate Housewives *
* Bejeweled Blitz Masters: Learn all the tips and tricks for the highest scores possible *
* Curvy girls are better lovers than skinny girls *
* P.E.T.A. *
See what I mean? The BIO looks pretty good, and this ‘person’ might genuinely feel blessed by God, but their PAGES/GROUPS speak volumes about who you really are…deep down inside…when you think no one is looking. Even if they joined these groups because they thought they were funny. How would I know if that’s the reason? On the surface all I see is, they belong to these groups, whatever the reason. Now I realize that it’s not likely that this type of person would be involved with all of these groups, but there are some of these groups that people who claim to be Christian’s are a part of, or other groups that are just as sketch. Simply put, some of our “favorites” send very mixed messages; if not destroy our witness all together. Remember, you might be the best Jesus some people ever see.
The internet is cloaked in an overwhelming sense of (false) security. In and of itself, the net is a-moral (neither bad nor good), however its us that pervert and twist it. What goes on between our fingertips and the keyboard is who we really are. On the net, we can spend countless hours surfing websites, browsing for everything from cooking spices and ingredients to sexy lingerie to homeschooling curriculum to plastic surgery to gardening how-tos’ and videos of people doing Lord knows what. We can spend our alone time on message boards (anonymously, of course) for married couple’s seeking affairs, or on boards for people who want to know more about farming and livestock. There are virtually millions of places we can go, but why would we?
The danger of too much internet time (at least for me) is becoming ensnared in the virtual world, and forgetting (or not wanting) to live in the real world. Through Facebook and other social networking sites we can find just about anything we want – from support groups to church groups to discount coupon clubs and old flames from high school and college. There are games and special interest groups and political forums as well. Pretty much, everything a body could ever want can be found online. Unfortunately, more and more marriages are being lost to social networking affairs. People are losing their jobs because they spend all night gaming or chatting and are too tired to go into work the next day. Others are being caught up in the world of evil-ex bashing or co-worker bashing and forgetting that these are real people too (maybe not nice people, but my mama always told me that if I couldn’t say anything nice about someone I shouldn’t say anything at all. And she’s been right – taking the high road is always the better option.).
Philippians 4:8 says, “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
This verse doesn’t just apply to our outward life, but also our inward life (our virtual life, as it were). I know that there weren’t computers and iPhones in Paul’s day, but it seems that this verse was written specifically for today. We must always be fixing our thoughts on things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and worthy of praise. It’s hard to do sometimes, especially when we’re feeling lonely, bored, tired, under-appreciated and over-worked, angry with your spouse, or a dozen other feelings that can get us all into trouble. But if we strive to always honor God, even in our private life, we will find we’re even more blessed than we think. Besides, keep in mind that Jesus is always right with you – He sees all you do…even when no one else is looking!