Goals?! Do people really reach them?

I’m not a great goal setter. Correction, I’m a great goal setter, I’m a terrible goal achiever. For most of my life, I’ve had plans to accomplish great things. At eight I wanted to be a teacher. When I was thirteen I wanted to be a coroner/mortician. When I was sixteen I wanted to be a missionary. When I was eighteen I wanted to be a business tycoon. By twenty I’d decided that being a florist was more fun than college. And at twenty-two I obtained my MRS. degree. At twenty-five I decided to be a professional dog groomer. At thirty I was a banker. And now I’m a professional student and housewife. If you’d ask me today what my dream job would be I’d still tell you coroner or mortician, but I don’t have the will power to make it through medical school and I really stink at science. I seem to be the type of person who always takes the road of least resistance. I’m naturally lazy, I suppose. I make all these grand plans for my life – dream big and even convince myself that I could achieve those dreams – and then reality hits me and those dreams wilt as fast as a spinach in a pan of hot bacon grease!

When it comes right down to it, I’m a realist. I’m an optimistic (and sometimes naive) realist, but a realist none the less. So when Sam and I started the South Beach diet back in February I was very supportive of him – after all, I don’t want him to drop dead on me – but somewhere in the back of my mind I was certain that this too would be a short-lived exercise in futility. I mean, look at us. We’re fat people. We both like to cook, and we love eating even more. We plan our vacations around food. We took a cruise because it had unlimited dining possibilities in five countries! I photograph and blog about cooking (and eating) for crying out loud. So I was pretty certain that past experience was going to play true on this one. But you know what, so far past experience has been foiled!

Sam and I are seven months into our new lifestyle. South Beach is truly a lifestyle for us. And in that choice there has come tremendous freedoms in the way we eat and think about food. We’ve both lost significantly, and neither of us are obsessing about food. We still have “hungry” days, and we both still have the occasional strong craving, but we’ve learned to adjust to it. No, we still can’t eat stuffed crust pizza or chicken chimichangas, but we have found foods that satisfy our cravings for certain cuisines and still allow us to lose weight.

When we first started this diet, I was certain I’d never be able to live without my nightly trough of cereal; or pasta, or bread, or rice, or potatoes on a daily or even weekly basis. And making the switch from full fat-full flavored coffee creamers to sugar-free creamer nearly killed me. But now, my body and my taste buds are so used to it I almost can’t stand the ‘regular’ stuff now. And yes, we still have the occasional “cheating day”, but it is just that – occasional – and usually we feel really cruddy afterward because our bodies aren’t used to eating junk food anymore.

And the best part about this whole lifestyle shift has been reaching some long overdue goals. For the first time in eleven years I weigh less than I did when I graduated from high school. I am wearing regular sized clothes again and can shop in nearly any store that pleases me. I can walk into a room of strangers and not feel like the hippo in Fantasia. I don’t mind having my photo taken since I no longer have to cover up all my chins! I can wear a bathing suit comfortably and not feel like everyone is wondering who let Shamu in the pool. I can move and bend and stretch and reach and twist and walk and jog and even………..see my toes again! I’m over half way to my goal weight and I feel great!

I know that I can do it this time – I really can and I really will! When I get there, I’m gonna celebrate – but not with food (well, it’s not entirely out of the question that there might be a piece of chocolate truffle cake, but it’ll likely be a very small piece). I’m gonna celebrate and do something I’ve never been able to do before like ride a zip line, or rock climb, or go horseback riding through the Rockies, or maybe I’ll just buy a bikini and actually wear it on some exotic beach location. I’m gonna dance naked in front of a wall of mirrors (alone of course…with all the blinds closed, and the doors locked and no cameras in sight!). I’m gonna buy myself a sexy little black dress and ask my husband to take me out someplace romantic. And I might even sneak a peak at one of those Victoria Secret catalogs and buy myself somethin’ real purty.

If I, the self-proclaimed ‘Queen of will-powerless-ness’ can do it, so can you!

Total weight loss to date: 61 pounds
Total weight loss to go: 53.5 pounds
Desired goal weight: 134.5 pounds (yes, that’s even less than I weighted in college – but only by a half a pound!)


2 thoughts on “Goals?! Do people really reach them?

  1. Anonymous

    You go B I know that you will do this and you look GREAT !!!!! You are one wonderful daughter and I Love you for who you are the best !! Sam is one lucky guy and I know he will make his weight !!!! Way to go you skinney people, stay looking GOOD !!! Dad

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